Problems bouncing back? It could be your unforgiving nature
By Colleen Carruthers
We all face adversity in our lives. Times when we meet challenges that can’t be overcome or at least appear to be insurmountable in our mind. The way we meet these challenges and ultimately bounce back is called resiliency. And it’s an important attribute because it helps us bounce back from adversity and stress.
Our relationships with others can affect our resiliency. Relationships are often a source of frustration. Differences of opinion and viewpoints can get us angry or upset, and cause us to be in places where we do not forgive. And, forgiveness influences our ability to be resilient.
Developing an ability to forgive is not easy. Forgiveness often challenges the essence of who we are: our values, our principles, our code of conduct and our moral campus. If you challenge these, you are challenging “my most inner me”; how could I forgive?
But there is a difference between forgiving and forgetting.